I refer to the recent “Seeking a relationship with someone in therapy“ published in the NYTIMES on 16 August 2022.  

A friend of mine noted that some people see therapy as a key dating criterion, suggesting that a partner who can afford therapy for years must be wealthy. However, I believe such views are subjective and oversimplify therapy’s role.

Therapy is not a cure-all; it’s a process involving awareness and growth, but its effectiveness depends on factors like openness, readiness, honesty, and humility. Simply having therapy experience doesn’t guarantee a partner will be perfect or better. The benefits of therapy come from personal commitment and willingness to change, not just attending sessions.

A person seeking therapy is a positive sign, as it shows a willingness to grow and address issues with professional help. However, therapy alone doesn’t make someone an ideal partner. It’s crucial to consider other attributes and how well they align with the needs of a relationship.

In summary, while therapy can be beneficial, its success relies heavily on the individual’s commitment to personal growth and their ability to apply insights gained during sessions.